How different is this relationship from any other sibling relationship?
A DS child develop slower than his peers and so requires a little more stimulation in life. Due to the condition he cannot create all that excitement himself or herself. Having siblings around brings a feel of normalcy i.e. the environment is more normal than it would have been for a single DS child. The extra stimulation, which he receives, form a sibling around goes a long way in helping the child develop.
Imitation and observation
Efforts to imitate
If you don’t have a sibling to observe the stimulation is much less.
Eg. Jumping…9:00
Her milestones were delayed. Instead of walking at 1 she was walking at1.5
docs said that something like jumping and hopping is something she might never achieve, but looking at all her siblings jump around she kept trying until she was able to. She would not have been dancing if she had not been able to jump.
Her milestones were delayed. Instead of walking at 1 she was walking at1.5
docs said that something like jumping and hopping is something she might never achieve, but looking at all her siblings jump around she kept trying until she was able to. She would not have been dancing if she had not been able to jump.
Eg. She wants to imitate driving but unfortunately cannot drive.
How do parents deal with it: You are short so your feet might not reach. Don’t shatter her dreams. Don’t maker her lose her self-confidence and motivation to achieve. Divert her attention to what she can do but does not. Set a target that she can achieve.
How do parents deal with it: You are short so your feet might not reach. Don’t shatter her dreams. Don’t maker her lose her self-confidence and motivation to achieve. Divert her attention to what she can do but does not. Set a target that she can achieve.
Negative- can acquire bad qualities from the sibling also
Observation and Comparison
Benefit of social interaction.
Watching her siblings lead their independent lives made her want it too. Watching them with their friends made her want to develop her network of friends who are now like siblings to her.
While growing up she was always surrounded by siblings and cousins, who were of the same age and the differences were not that apparent. This need for a group of friends started when the siblings growing up and moving away created a vacuum. That vacuum is necessary for parents to understand the need of creating a group of friends. If you don’t have something you don’t miss it. You don’t feel the need for company unless its gone. That’s the best thing that could happen because these friends answer each others questions from their own individual experiences. They stand united and their lives are as normal as it can be.
Gender
It’s easier for her to compete with her sister in terms of clothes. Wants to wear the same but cant since she is less aware of her body and don’t want her to be mistreated in public. She wears those sorts when parents are with her. So that balances out her desire for a certain type of lifestyle. She gets that opportunity also.
Having a sibling of the same sex has increased her awareness of clothes, cosmetics and friends. The entire act of dressing up, putting make-up came naturally to varuni because of observing her sisters.
Expectations from the normal sibling
Care giving responsibilities
Taking care in the future. Both siblings are likely to outlive the parents.
Lead an interactive life. Knowing the responsibilities is not enough.
Impact on normal sibling
Become a more sensitive person and more tolerant to any challenge.
You have been chosen to have a sister like this because of the qualities that you possess.
Siblings become ambassadors of such sensitivity and pass it onto their social circle.
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